Why New Year’s Resolutions are Like a One Night Stand

NY.resolution.goalsHave your New Year’s resolutions ever been like a one night stand? Seemed good at the time and yet vanished quickly? Lots of people have regrets and hang-ups about making them cause they vanish so quickly. Ever feel like even stating resolutions is just setting yourself up for failure?

Ever treated ‘resolutions’ like a random wish or a one night stand rather than a serious personal commitment? It’s not about a holiday on the calendar. Without focus on these intended changes EVERY day, what’s the point?

The word ‘resolution’ originated from the word resolve.

Re + solve = Solve something again, and best from a new mindset and perspective.

It’s much more of a commitment than simply making a wish, and yet not a pass/fail test either. In fact you cannot fail unless you quit. So why IS it that most people do quit? What makes some stick TO the journey while (most) others do not?

Could it be that the traditional approaches to achieving goals and resolution are inside out and backward? Daniele LaPorte thinks so. “You’re not chasing the goal itself, you’re actually chasing a feeling… It’s backwards. It’s outside in. And it’s running us in circles.”

We run in circles after what we want outside of ourselves, praying that we’ll be fulfilled when we get there. In “The Desire Map” LaPorte guides us toward getting inner clarity on how we actually wanted to feel on the inside, and only then to begin setting intentions toward outer actions.

Listen to Danille LaPorte discuss the Desire Map

Our world entertains a paradigm about a new year as a blank slate, making that January 1st date some epic annual opportunity. Yet we can restart and resolve to new directions ANY day we are ready. This readiness to create a new direction on a blank slate is not determined by any timing nor desire but our own.

How we FEEL heavily effects our actions. Feelings either ignite the process or make it a real drag. Strong desire can determine how we persevere toward the end result, to stick with this fleeting process. Inner clarity can boost optimism, easier decision making, less complaints and simply more joy and FUN in the process.

wishes.goals.resolutions.jpgThink in terms of living in a deliberate way that focuses from the inside out, rather than the outside in. It’s about being proactive rather than reactive, driving your own life with clarity about YOUR desires. Challenges get resolved from the inside out. You will do less proving yourself, more living and have more to give.

Do YOU make traditional New Year’s resolutions? Ever heard of Danielle LaPorte and the Desire Map? Or have you used other creative methods toward goal achievement? Please comment below.


Carolan Ross

CFO(Chief Fun Officer) at SoloSpark
Freelance writer, creative soul, solopreneur and former teacher who networks with rebels, visionaries, artists and other square pegs in round holes. I support solopreneurs with copywriting and juggling life and business to SHINE ONLINE!

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